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Prosperity Through Purpose | Integrating Wealth and Fulfillment | 6-Figure Practice

"May you live in interesting times."-Chinese Proverb

We do indeed live in interesting times. We stand at a fascinating and precarious crossroads at this time in history.  And as with all such situations, there is an incredible opportunity right now to reassess, take inventory, and commit to integrating our wealth acquisition strategies with your deepest spiritual principles. To be of service--and to become prosperous as a result of, rather than instead of, such a commitment.

Those who are in the arts and who have holistic training have the greatest opportunity of all to do so.

I read recently that the vast majority of coaches and practitioners never make over $25,000/year. This is more than unfortunate. Frankly, it borders on tragic. Mostly because they either give up, or, worse, for a belief that it isn't possible to live comfortably and live their purpose. That is a sad waste of resources that could be applied to evolving consciousness on this planet. And it does not have to be so. Not only can you become prosperous as a result of living your purpose through serving others--but if we can, we must.

For some, the "how" is simply missing. For others, their beliefs about money or themselves--or their offering or service--is in the way. For still others, there is a combination of all of that.

Whether any of that is true for you or not, what is true in reality is that you can have a thriving holistic business in service of others leading to emotional and spiritual fulfillment for you, and ultimately, a better world for all. If you know how and do the personal work to get out of your own way.


This is a free mini-workshop for coaches and holistic practitioners of any any modality.

  • The 3 Necessary Components to to build and maintain a 6-figure holistic practice
  • How to sell without ever selling--coming from a place of service
  • How to structure talks and introductory workshops so that they practically write themselves
  • Ways to reveal and dissolve the beliefs you've inherited--or created--that are blocking you from success and fulfillment
  • How to create and organize a comprehensive offering to serve the client more fully
  • Other cool and incredibly useful stuff


What: Purpose Through Prosperity | Components for Your 6-Figure Practice
When: Wednesday, February 27th @ 7pm - 9pm
Where: SOMA, San Francisco »RSVP« for exact location

Why: To live a more fulfilled and integrated life.

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Resolution Evolution | Creating Your S.M.A.R.T. 2013

If you want to simply register for the call, go HEREHERE:
http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/O3N7012HI6UW9F9Chttp://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/O3N7012HI6UW9F9C

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That time of year has just passed when most of us have taken inventory. And many of us imagine a future that is somehow ... different from the past.

Sometimes it comes in the form of examining what we learned from the year we have just lived and experienced--and making plans for what we want to accomplish in the coming year.

Either way, we all know how it goes for most of us by the end of January. Or, heck, by January 10th ...

This is not some failure on our part; more often it is a matter of conflicting parts within us that are yearning to be understood, appreciated, and integrated. Still other aspects can simply be not being present to our internal representations and not understanding our unconscious organization of time and how to access that and maximize its power.

Essentially not understanding how to harness the power of our own mind.

And sometimes it is not knowing how to language a goal to make certain that the probabilities that it will become a reality are dramatically increased.

We'll cover all of that in this free tele-seminar.

What you will discover:

• How to create S.M.A.R.T. goals and outcomes
• Why resolutions rarely ever work--and how to make sure they do
• Understanding your unconcious organization of time
• How unconscious, internal conflicting parts can be brought into your awareness, honored, and integrated

• The art and science of Time Line Tharapy to create spooky cool results

Join us. It's free. 

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by being exposed to this powerful way to manage your own mind.

Your future begins now ...

What: Creating Your SMART Future
When: Wednesday, January 16th @ 7pm Pacific
Where: On the phone and/or on the web

Register for the call HEREHERE:

http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/O3N7012HI6UW9F9Chttp://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/O3N7012HI6UW9F9C

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3 Components Calls | Your Secret Sauce to Build Your 6-Figure Practice in 2013

Below are the recordings for the teleseminars we have conducted on the specificed dates. May they serve you in building and maintaining a thriving practice.

 

December 15th, 2012 at 11am Pacific:

Overview of the 3 components to building and maintaining your 6-figure practice as well as focusing in on the 1st component: developing a comprehensive offering. Lots of rich Q and A starts at about the half-way mark as well.


You can listen to the call here now, or download it at the link below by saving the linked file [right+click on
PC or CTRL+Click on the Macintosh].

mp33 Components | Call #1 | December 15th 201223.9 MB23.9 MB

 


December 18th, 2012 @ 7pm Pacific:

Lots of content in this call. Too much for a few people taking notes I hear, so this is one you will want to listen to over and over again. This call is all about the Evolutionary Sales flow and the sales process. There was a 3 to 5-minute dead space in the middle of the call which I have edited out.


In addition to the recording, you will find some linked files below. They include a flowchart or checklist/cheat sheet so you can follow the steps in the sales process, as well as supporting email templates.

May they serve you well on your path to integrate your purpose and your prosperity.

mp33 Components | Call #2 | December 18th 22.18 MB

 

pdfEvolutionary Sales Flowchart | Checklist141.64 KB
pdfInitial Chat Email Template29.07 KB
pdfExploratory Session Email Template22.57 KB

 
I also promised you a link to my FAQ so you would have an example to model. You can find that «« HERE »». Here is the actual URL: http://coaches.evolutionarycompanies.com/faq


December 20th, 2012 @ 7pm Pacific:

This call is all about "free".  How to aquire prospective clients by offering free evening workshops or introductions to your work as well as the social media "thing", blogging, etc. This recording due to techinical difficulties on the call, was recorded for you as a screencast. You can streem it, or download the MP4 to your device.

 


You can download the 3rd call video file here: mp4 3 Components | Call #3 | December 20th 392.53 MB

 

If you have any additional questions, comments, or observations you would like to ask or share, feel free to contact me using the contact form «« here »».

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Creating Your S.M.A.R.T. Future | Teleseminar

That time of year is approaching when most of us begin to take inventory. Sometimes it is as simple as looking at our lives and making "resolutions" to change this habit or that habit.

Sometimes it comes in the form of examining what we learned from the year we have just lived and experienced--and making plans for what we want to accomplish in the coming year.

Either way, we all know how it goes for most of us by the end of January. Or, heck, by January 10th ...

This is not some failure on our part; more often it is a matter of conflicting parts within us that are yearning to be understood, appreciated, and integrated. Still other aspects can simply be not being present to our internal representations and not understanding our unconscious organization of time and how to access that and maximize its power.

Essentially not understanding how to harness the power of our own mind.

And sometimes it is not knowing how to language a goal to make certain that the probabilities that it will become a reality are dramatically increased.

We'll cover all of that in this free tele-seminar.

What you will discover:

• How to create S.M.A.R.T. goals and outcomes
• Understanding your unconcious organization of time
• How unconscious, internal conflicting parts can be brought into your awareness, honored, and integrated
• The art and science of Time Line Tharapy to create spooky cool results

Join us. It's free. 

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by being exposed to this powerful way to manage your own mind.

Your future begins now ...

What: Creating Your SMART Future
When: Thursday, December 6th @ 12pm Pacific
Where: On the phone and/or on the web

Register for the call herehere:

http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/V86HCV9V1NT9QU05

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Update: Here is the recording for the call:




Here is the direct link to download the source file:


mp3smart_future_20121206.mp315.32 MB

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Creating Your S.M.A.R.T. 2013 | Teleseminar

That time of year is approaching when most of us begin to take inventory. Sometimes it is as simple as looking at our lives and making "resolutions" to change this habit or that habit.

Sometimes it comes in the form of examining what we learned from the year we have just lived and experienced--and making plans for what we want to accomplish in the coming year.

Either way, we all know how it goes for most of us by the end of January. Or, heck, by January 10th ...

This is not some failure on our part; more often it is a matter of conflicting parts within us that are yearning to be understood, appreciated, and integrated. Still other aspects can simply be not being present to our internal representations and not understanding our unconscious organization of time and how to access that and maximize its power.

Essentially not understanding how to harness the power of our own mind.

And sometimes it is not knowing how to language a goal to make certain that the probabilities that it will become a reality are dramatically increased.

We'll cover all of that in this free tele-seminar.

What you will discover:

• How to create S.M.A.R.T. goals and outcomes
• Why resolutions rarely ever work
• Understanding your unconcious organization of time
• How unconscious, internal conflicting parts can be brought into your awareness, honored, and integrated

• The art and science of Time Line Tharapy to create spooky cool results

Join us. It's free. 

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by being exposed to this powerful way to manage your own mind.

Your future begins now ...

What: Creating Your SMART Future
When: Wednesday, December 12th @ 7pm Pacific
Where: On the phone and/or on the web

Register for the call herehere:

http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/JBBR735RCCR4LCZ3http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/JBBR735RCCR4LCZ3

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Resolving Your Past | Creating Your Future

Imagine having a tool in your toolbox that was so versatile it could resolve fears and traumas from the past--and could also create magical results for you and your clients in the future...

For years now, many people have asked me to teach and/or demonstrate certain NLP methods and processes.


This is the first in a series born out of me finally saying yes to that request.

After 17 years of being a Master Practitioner, there are really only about 5 main processes I use because of the scope of what they can address as well as the depth at which they work. In other words, they can handle pretty much everything and anything mentally and emotionally.

One of those is my own modified version of Dr Tad James' Time Line Therapy.

In this free 90-minute event I will demonstrate and teach the principles involved that make it effective as both a tool for resolution as well as how to create magical results in your future.

•Create magical financial as well as personal results in your future
•Resolve past traumatic experiences
•Dissolve habitual emotional
•Integrate the power of your unconscious mind, your self-concept, the law of attraction, and your unconscious organization of time to create futures


And so many other uses.


This is one of those "must-know" processes for effective coaches and practitions. Something you will want to have in your tool bag--even if you think you already know it, you will be enriched by learning this version of it--and the underlying principles.


Serve your clients and yourself more effectively. Start by RSVPing for this event and adding this to your tool box. Use the contact form here to find out the exact location.

When: Tuesday, July 31st @ 7:15pm
Where: Del Mar-ish, San Diego [RSVP for exact location]
Why: See above

In Service,

jason.the.mcclain

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Facility With Self ::: Navigating Your Interiors

 

 

Be a part of the ultimate on-line course for coaches and practitioners here.

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Agreement Frames | Clean Relating

 

 

Participate in the ultimate on-line course for coaches and practitioners here.

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Spiritual Capitalism | Evolutionary Professionals in San Diego

Sustainability of Change for Your Clients | Financial Sustainability for You

 

I believe that right now is the time for the Evolutionary Professional™. The emergent agent of change integrating purpose and wealth; doing well as a result of doing good-- integrating universal spiritual principles and free market economics. I understand that the more of you I empowers to be successful, and have a full-time practice that is thriving, the better off the world will be.

It is no secret that a primary component of building a 6-figure practice is to offer prospective clients a comprehensive package and path to step into.

Not only does it allow you to guide a client to more sustainable and stable change that takes hold--change that actually sticks--serving them more comprehensively--it also allows you, as the practitioner, to relax into serving them--allowing you to focus all of your energies on the clients outcomes--rather than concern for whether they will be back next week--or not.

That's all well and good...but ::: There are 2 additional critical components.

"The most striking feature of the perennial philosophy/psychology is that it presents being and consciousness as a holarchy of dimensional levels, moving from the lowest, densest, and most fragmentary realms to the highest, subtlest, and most unitary ones." --Ken Wilber

 
You may be wondering ::: what the heck does that quote from Ken Wilber have to do with creating packages for your clients?!
 
I am happy to share that with you.

 

There are only a few components successful coaches and practitioners must incorporate into their practice to turn it into a business. At the same time, you can be “doing” these things, and still be unsuccessful unless you have the necessary techniques and ethical tactics incorporated into the components.

Not just the “how” but “how specifically”.

In this free evening discover:

The 3 Necessary Components for Building and Maintaining a 6-Figure Practice

  • How to construct talks and tele-seminars so that your students and attendees
  • Learn and retain more information and learnings
  • Have maximum opportunity to engage in your products or services without feeling "sold" or "pitched to"
  • How to design a comprehensive offering
  • How to structure them for the benefit of the client
  • How to "stack" the stages so the offering is cogent
  • How to turn initial consultations into results (90% conversion rate from prospects to clients) using Evolutionary Sales™
What you will take home with you from this event :::
  • How to sell without "selling"; from a place of service and contribution
  • The structure of phases and stages in your comprehensive offering and how to "stack" them to best serve the client
  • The 4 components a comprehensive package must have to be compelling
  • The philosophical and emotional residue that comes up for practitioners from antiquated ways of thinking ::: and how to resolve them
  • The structure to use to have presentations and evening introductions practically write themselves
  • The Number 1 Mistake that Practitioners and Coaches make in their marketing strategy and copy writing [and its solution]
  • How ... to integrate your purpose and your prosperity
 
 
When ::: Monday, June 11th from 7pm to 9:30pm
Where ::: In San DiegoRSVP for exact location using the contact form on this site.
Why ::: Integrate your purpose and your prosperity
 
Cost? ::: Free.
 
RSVP for exact location using the contact form on this site.
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Spiritual Capitalism ::: The Teleseminar Series ::: Integrating Your Purpose and Your Prosperity

In the times we face today, it has never been more challenging or more urgent that we integrate our purpose and our spiritual sensibilities with our wealth acquisition strategies.

And ... it is tough. We've all faced some degree of the belief that our spirit and our wealth is in conflict. Sadly, in the last few years, this has come into even higher relief; even greater contrast.

Not only can we integrate our purpose and our prosperity, but we must

In this evening introduction, we will cover:

  • The 3 critical components for building and maintaining a 6-figure practice
  • How to sell without selling; sell from a place of service and contribution
  • How to turn your initial consultations into results


What else will we cover?

  •  "Tricks of the Trade" including :::
    • 4 strategies successful coaches and practitioners engage in on a regular basis to maintain their practice
    • 3 critical techniques to turn your initial consultations into results
  • The Number 1 Mistake that Practitioners and Coaches make in their marketing strategy and their copy writing
    • [and it’s solution]

We'll get into how to create and hone your extended offering/package for clients. We'll talk about how to give talks, blog, and give teleseminars to acquire clients. And yes, we'll get into Evolutionary Sales™.

A system I will hand over to you in this talk. Fine-tuned, and streamlined over years of trial and error.

 

When?  ::: Monday, November 21st @ 7:30pm Pacific

Followed by:

Monday, November 28th @ 7:30pm Pacific
Monday, December 5th @ 7:30pm Pacific
Monday, December 12th @ 7:30pm Pacific

 

Where? ::: On the phone or in your web browser on your computer.  
Register « HERE »


Why?   

Why ...

I believe that right now is the time for the Evolutionary Professional™. The emergent agent of change integrating purpose and wealth; doing well as a result of doing good-- integrating universal spiritual principles and free market economics. I understand that the more of you I empower to be successful, and have a full-time practice that is thriving, the better off the world will be.

And if you have read this far ... you sense the same thing. Join us:

Register « HERE » for the first call.


Update ::: recordings for the calls are now here:

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Teleseminar Series ::: 3 of 4 ::: Turning Initial Consultations Into Results

[update: listen to this call below. Register for the remaining call in the series herehere]
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Take a moment to consider ...

What if you could count on a prospective client signing an extended package with you when you see them in person? When I say, "count on" I mean with 90% certainty?

As a holistic practitioner, you are sensitive to dynamics that do not feel right and you truly want to be of service to your prospective clients. You want to make sure they never feel pressured.

And they never should feel that--they do not to.

Discover how to have the best of all worlds ::: how to serve your potential client fully; how to convert more prospective clients into clients, and ultimately ... friends.

And do it by having a sales system that is in service of the actualization of the life they have always dreamed of ... and deserve.

Discover how on this tele-seminar. Details about the series here and registration herehere.

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Evening for Practitioners ::: The Three Necessary Components | Success is not Magic ::: It is Systematic

There are only a few components successful coaches and practitioners must incorporate into their practice to turn it into a business. At the same time, you can be “doing” these things, and still be unsuccessful unless you have the necessary techniques and ethical tactics incorporated into the components.

Not just the “how” but “how specifically”.

In this free evening discover:

  • The 3 Necessary Components for Building and Maintaining a 6-Figure Practice
  • 7 "Tricks of the Trade" including :::
    • 4 strategies successful coaches and practitioners engage in on a regular basis to maintain their practice
    • 3 critical techniques to turn your initial consultations into results
  • The Number 1 Mistake that Practitioners and Coaches make in their marketing strategy and copy writing
    • [and its solution]

 

This from a former student :::

"Jason McClain is the real deal. His personal life story makes the stories of both Tony Robbins and Christopher Howard look like happy-go-lucky children’s books. He has been quoted as saying, 'if I can be happy and successful anyone can'.

"He built a 6-figure practice from scratch with an intangible service ::: “Personal EvolutionPersonal Evolution”. Something no one wakes up in the morning and thinks they need or looks for. His success was as a result of the incredible efficacy of the system he developed by trial and error."  --M.D.

A system I will hand over to you in this talk. Fine-tuned, streamlined ... optimized.

"I believe that right now is the time for the Evolutionary Professional™. The emergent agent of change integrating purpose and wealth; doing well as a result of doing good-- integrating universal spiritual principles and free market economics. I understand that the more of you I empowers to be successful, and have a full-time practice that is thriving, the better off the world will be.

Evolving the planet one client at a time is great, but it is horribly inefficient. *laughing* Let’s accelerate the process together."  --Jason D McClain

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Jason D McClain will lead this talk.

Acquire knowledge from one of the most broadly educated minds in the coaching business always innocently irreverent, funny, affable, approachable, and obviously committed to serving you by delivering dense value in his talks, expect the tips you will learn in this evening to bear immediate and lasting fruit in your business and in your life.

Bring something to take notes with. Be ready to implement effective ethical strategies to dramatically increase your income as well as your levels of fulfillment.

Isn't it about time?

WHERE?

San Francisco ::: @ The Sandbox SuitesThe Sandbox Suites Wednesday, August 11th ::: 7pm to 9pm

RSVP to let us know you want a seat reserved for you.

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Teleseminar ::: Three Necessary Components for Systematic Success

UPDATE ::: This call is over. The audio from the call is now available here:

 

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There are only a few components successful coaches and practitioners must incorporate into their practice to turn it into a business. At the same time, you can be “doing” these things, and still be unsuccessful unless you have the necessary techniques and ethical tactics incorporated into the components.

Not just the “how” but “how specifically”.

In this free tele-seminar discover:

  • The 3 Necessary Components for Building and Maintaining a 6-Figure Practice
  • 7 "Tricks of the Trade" including :::
    • 4 strategies successful coaches and practitioners engage in on a regular basis to maintain their practice
    • 3 critical techniques to turn your initial consultations into results
  • The Number 1 Mistake that Practitioners and Coaches make in their marketing strategy and their copy writing
    • [and it’s solution]

 

Monday, March 15th, 2010 @ 7pm Pacific. Use this linkthis link to register for the call:

http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/7B344C7GLNT38MXhttp://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/7B344C7GLNT38MX

 

This from a former student :::

"Jason McClain is the real deal. His personal life story makes the stories of both Tony Robbins and Christopher Howard look like happy-go-lucky children’s books. He has been quoted as saying, 'if I can be happy and successful anyone can'.

"He built a 6-figure practice from scratch with an intangible service ::: “Personal EvolutionPersonal Evolution”. Something no one wakes up in the morning and thinks they need or looks for. His success was as a result of the incredible efficacy of the system he developed by trial and error." -M.D.

A system I will hand over to you in this talk. Fine-tuned, and streamlined.

"I believe that right now is the time for the Evolutionary Professional™. The emergent agent of change integrating purpose and wealth; doing well as a result of doing good-- integrating universal spiritual principles and free market economics. I understand that the more of you I empowers to be successful, and have a full-time practice that is thriving, the better off the world will be.

Evolving the planet one client at a time is great, but it is horribly inefficient. *laughing* Let’s accelerate the process together."  --Jason D McClain

--

Acquire knowledge from one of the most broadly educated minds in the coaching business always innocently irreverent, funny, affable, approachable, and obviously committed to serving you by delivering dense value in his talks, expect the tips you will learn in this evening to bear immediate and lasting fruit in your business and in your life.

Be sure you have something to take notes with: and feel free to submit questions before hand. Space is limited to 99 participants to grab your spot nowgrab your spot now.

 

 

Monday, March 15th, 2010 @ 7pm Pacific. Use this linkthis link to register for the call:

http://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/7B344C7GLNT38MXhttp://myaccount.maestroconference.com/conference/register/7B344C7GLNT38MX

Oh--and to get a free trial, for what I think is the best teleseminar service out there--that allows you to call on people by name, "pass the mic" to them, and create break-out groups if you are leading a tele-class or series of tele-seminars, and a bunch more super cool technology to make your life as an entrepreneur easier and your business thrive with more profitability, click HERE.

Rumor has it, they will be adding webinar/screen casting functionality soon, too.SHHHHHHHSHHHHHHH

 

In Service and in Evolution,

jason.the.mcclain™

UPDATE :::

Here is the audio of the call for y'all :::

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Motivation | Style, Structure, and Tasty Bite-Sized Morsels

One of the main challenges that small business people face—particularly solo practitioners or “solo-preneurs” in general--is the problem and the art of motivating oneself.

You are your own boss. If you have employees, then the game may be a little different for you as you have people depending on you.  However, if it is just you, there are often no external forces telling you that you must do any particular “thing”.  There are certainly exceptions to this—client deliverables, purchases that have been made, the general inertia of your business pulling you along at some point, but really, especially at first, it is an uphill battle for many on their own.

There are so many aspects to this problem of motivation that some never figure it out—or worse, they find solutions that compound the problem in the long-term because the “solutions” are ill-suited approaches. Ill-suited to them as individuals.

To really add fuel to the fire [or baking soda to the lack thereof] we have distractions, overwhelm, time management, prioritization, and the list goes on, and on, and on.

What works for one person in terms of motivation may or may not—and often does not—work for another. So it is with time management, goals, and the like. There is no one-size-fits-all or even a one-size-fits-most solution. Particularly for those who are more sensitive both emotionally and kinesthetically/energetically, many of the “take massive action” or “get present to the consequences if you do not” approaches create more internal dissonance, and if the tasks or milestones the individual is accountable for are not accomplished, this can lead to a build-up of that same internal dissonance, or worse, feelings of guilt or worse still, even shame, and with the principle of compound interest on the “debt” you have with yourself…well, we can see where it may and often does lead: overwhelm rather than accomplishment.

Even if it does not lead there for you, these levels of intense urgent styles of motivational techniques can cause a lack of balance at best, and at worst, hardcore burnout.

What is the solution? Custom design your own motivational strategy using a few basic principles and approaches.

 

Step 1: Discover Your Style

Find out what works for you at a base level. Since at least Aristotle was writing in the  300s B.C. we have known that humans are generally motivated in two basic ways or “directions” ::: away from pain or toward pleasure. Or both.

Stated in the context of goals and deliverables: away from consequences or toward a vision.

You will notice one creates leverage [and often contraction and internal dissonance] in your body—it pushes you. Compels you. Often uncomfortably. The other pulls you forward. It is expansive. It opens you and draws you toward it.

The danger is to judge one or the other. Urgency/away from/consequence driven motivation could be “bad” because it creates tension and dissonance. Vision is “good” because it is expansive. Or the reverse; vision/toward is “bad” because it does not create massive intense action, necessarily. Urgency/away from is “good” because it creates more instant [in some] results.

An additional component is style is how you like to be supported. 

This is also a critical component. While I am not an "accountability coach" per se, and never have been, quite often, clients ask me to support them in getting stuff done. Before I even begin such an aspect of our relationship, and since I can assume almost any style of coaching to serve them at this point, I ask them ::: how do you like to be supported.

No this before asking for external help--or be prepared to explore that inquiry with your friend, guide, coach, or accountability partner.

The truth is, whichever style works for you, as you become more aware, even now, at how you have created results in the past for yourself—when you found yourself simply motivated to accomplish what you wanted to accomplish—is the “good” style for you.

If an “away from” strategy works best for you, then create externally supported consequences to propel you forward. Engage a coach professionally, who coaches in that style. Or have a friend be your accountability partner—and someone willing to enforce uncomfortable consequences for/on you.

If this kind of approach has you feel overwhelmed, or has you feel like running from your entire support system [missing phone calls, not emailing them when you said you would, unaccomplished tasks building up, etc.], then consider the other approach: an approach that has you moving toward a larger vision. Toward a future you are creating. An approach that has you stay constantly present to the deeper meaning in the work you are doing; what your purpose of mission is, so you stay in the game. Plainly put ::: remember why you are committed to doing what you are supposed to do, in the grand scheme of things.  

As an example: you’re not simply “having a client session”. You are doing far more than that—you are helping someone have the life they have always dreamed of. And even greater or larger, you are contributing to the evolution of humanity itself—to a global vision of the Greater Good.

 

Mission. Vision. Life Purpose.

Whatever your style, be sure you use the one that best suits your sensibilities and produces the results for you, in your life, that you want produced.

 

Step 2: Make Your Tasks Bite-Sized.

“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” –Anonymous

It is not an "event" is an unfolding process.

Make sure your expectations are realistic, and that your goals and outcomes are in stages, and a palatable size. Often, people set these wild expectations for themselves or they have their goal of “building a business” be a one-step process, rather than what it is: a natural process of growth we see all around us.

First, we crawl. Then we walk. Then we run.

You would not expect to go to the gym for the very first time and lift 300 pounds would you? Of course not. You would go, do a little to stretch yourself—just get a little sore—and then do a little more until you are at the level—eventually—you want to be at.

 

Nothing happens in one step.

And make sure the chunks are an appropriate size for your sensibilities—again, not someone else’s no matter how much of a “motivational guru” they are.

Allow me to give you a personal example. Nearly a decade ago now, I used to make 200 cold calls a day. However, I did not last long when I tried to declare or commit to making that many phone calls. Too large of a chunk.  So I tried blocks of 50. It was still daunting. Eventually, I got down to committing to simply doing blocks of 10. That was easy. In fact, it was so easy, I did another 10. And another. This little psychological game I played with myself made it easier and easier to consistently accomplish 200 calls a day.

Make sure your level of expectations (your workload, your milestones, and even your to-do list if you use one) are all designed to maintain balance, while consistently building and growing.

Slow, sustainable, constant growth and expansion is always preferable to short-term, over-the-top goals, as that is the sustainable, and more ecological [both emotionally and systemically] approach.

I will suggest one thing : make sure you always accomplish the most important or most pressing single task for that day. Just pick one. You know which one it is. If you want to do more, great. But commit to doing that one thing you know needs to be done today. If that “one thing” is too large a task, break it down into sub-tasks, and eat that elephant one bite at a time.

 

In sum, there are three major steps to “motivating” yourself.

  1. Discover The Style or “direction” that works for you. Are you motivated toward something larger or toward a vision? Or are you more motivated with consequences and pain?
  2. Set up systems and structures to support your style of motivation. Whether that is through a colleague, friend, professional, or with yourself is irrelevant until you learn what best works for you--both in terms of style and in terms of actual structures.
  3. Make sure your goals or milestones or “stuff” you wanna get done is not only realistic, but is also in the appropriate “chunk size” so you do not undercut or undermine the first two steps. And relax—you can always increase chunk size or workload as you gain momentum and a sense of accomplishment.

Above all, be  a scientist in the laboratory of your own life. Consider the above and the choices you make at first an experiment. Test it out. If you find, after some days, or a week, or more that the style of motivation is not working, be willing to be flexible and try the other style. If you discover you are seldom—or never--accomplishing your desired “things” to do, that’s fine. It only means one thing ::: you need to adjust the size or the scope or the chunks as appropriate.

Test. Adjust. Test again. Find out what work. Build on your successes. Harvest the lessons when you miss your target. Build upon that as well. Often, those lessons are even more valuable than accomplishing what you set out to do.

If you know where and how to examine the failures they are always more valuable than the successes and will lead to exponential success in the long run.

Have fun with it. Remember, it is your life. You get to live it as you choose.

 

In Service,

 

Jason The McClain

 

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NLP, Identity, Sexual Orientation, and Our Responsibility to Assist Clients in Self-Acceptance

somebody i met was asking me if NLP processes can change an identity layer as deep as sexual orientation.

Great question. Several ideas about it:

There are some aspects of sexual orientation that may extend into identity structures, but I am uncertain about the presupposition that there is where it lays--in fact, after seing hundreds of clients, for some people it creates tremendous internal dissonance when they finally admit to their desires because it is directly in conflict with their identity structures. In other words, I disagree with the presupposition in the question.


this guy is straight and very open-minded. i think he genuinely wanted to know about the range and reach of NLP. i did tell him that i did a training with richard bandler in 88 or 89 where he *claimed* that guys (terrified of aids) had begged him to "make them straight" AND he said that he did that!



Bandler may have in fact done that.  Again, lots of "instant research" in the early days. But if Bandler did it and was bragging about it, I would be even more hesitant. Bandler once bragged in a video I watched about installing a phobia in someone so they would stop sitting in the front row. Ugh. However, there is a documented intervention [Laid out in "Heart of the Mind", I think] where a guy was effeminate, and supposedly gay, married, but did not enjoy sex with men [or something like that] and there was an event where he was going under anesthetic, struggled, and was put under. This was somehow tied to the effeminate-ness and cleared and his orientation "changed" to straight.

Again, not sure the guy was ever really homo-erotically driven.


NOW, i am open-minded, so i said i think that there are aspects of person's 'taste' for certain things could be altered and very likely even the cues for arousal. i am also aware that there is a big difference between chemistry/attraction and a constructed identity--so yes an 'identity' could be shifted. BUT I don't really know if the primary gender attraction could change.



Yeah. I agree with you here.


thoughts?



Of course.

If someone came to me wanting to change their sexual orientation/gender attraction, I would probably decline to do so. But I would do it elegantly in this way ::: Get into communication wiht the part of them that feels like something is wrong with their desires [assuming consenting adults] and look at the guilt and shame that must be driving the desire to change and resolve that to make them okay with their mutually consensual, alternative, yet natural desires. Thereby sidestepping what I consider to be a questionable intervention.

To me, that is a more ethical approach, rippling out to areas in every aspect of their life, creating internal peace, and avoiding making change that is motivated in the ways this request for change likely would be.

It is not the thing itself [sexual orientation in this case] that is the problem, but the relationship to it the creates it as a problem.
And again, just because we can, does not mean we should.

Self-acceptance being one of the highest and deepest contributions we can make to our clients.

Jason

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